Unless you breathe out of your butt, you can’t live in your shell….

I knew I was in real trouble yesterday when I got off the phone with my friend. I’d called to get an update on a work situation I’d helped her with the day before and was glad to see that it had all worked out.

“See, I told you not to take it personally,” I’d said. “Sometimes it helps to get a perspective from someone who isn’t as close to the situation.”

If I’d have stopped there, there would’ve been no problem. But I continued. “Me, I don’t care what anyone thinks. They can get mad and get glad. I’m over caring what anyone thinks of me.”

Me thinks the lady doth protest too much should’ve been the dialogue in my head. But I was still buried so deep in my shell I actually believed it was true.

The next morning I climbed into a steaming hot bathtub filled with bubbles and settled in to drink my mug of ice cold Coke and finish the novel I’d been reading. After just a couple of pages, the character faced a loss that brought all my pent-up tears and fears to the surface.

I set the book down and just cried until I couldn’t tell where my tears stopped and the bathwater began. I knew at once that the plot was merely the catalyst for a cleansing the Lord knew I needed.

99% of anger people feel stems from a hurt or a fear. It’s merely a coping mechanism for grief. And grief doesn’t alway require a casket. You can grieve many things from wasted years to failed relationships. You build up these tough exteriors so that they don’t hurt as much but when you get deep down inside, the pain is still there.

That’s why we have to continually turn these things over to the Lord. If we don’t, they form roots in our souls, rotted vines that grow and ensnare the goodness within us.

But sometimes that feels impossible. you think, to let go means you don’t care. Or you can’t stop thinking, even obsessing, over it. After a loss, are you expected to just stand up, wash your hands, and move on as if nothing had happened?

Of course not.

But that’s what letting go and letting God feels like.

Some losses are permanent. Death brings a finality of grief.

Some losses may be temporary. This is the one I’m struggling with right now. A familial relationship that I’m not sure will ever be reconciled. Sometimes the open-ended grief is even harder. Is there hope? Should I accept it’s over? I tried honesty. I tried space. I tried heartfelt. I tried humor.

Then I tried to bury myself in a shell and pretend I didn’t care. I have friends who WANT a relationship with me. I have a good life, with or without her. It’s HER loss. But the truth is, it was MY loss. All of the pretending it didn’t matter was slapping a Flash Gordon band-aid over a massive gaping wound.

We can’t stop caring, or wanting things to be right, or even wishing our loved ones were still on earth with us. We can’t stop the sorrow, or the fears, or the regrets in life. All we can do is grab each situation or each thought as it comes by and ask the Lord to help us through it.

We aren’t turtles. We can’t bury our heads inside ourselves and we don’t breathe through our rear ends. We don’t need shells to protect us; we just need Jesus.

Save the Jello Molds for Thanksgiving

I actually hate Jello molds so I won’t be making this for Thanksgiving either but that’s really not the point of this message.

The real message here is that we cannot take the Word of God and mold it into whatever we want it to be.

Unfortunately, that seems to be exactly what society is trying to do today.

“That’s not really what God meant….” (Yes. Yes it is.)

“Surely God didn’t mean…” (Yep, the devil used that on Eve too. We all know how that turned out.)

“This Bible is outdated. We need a new one…” (His Word is never-changing.)

We, as individuals, sometimes aren’t much better.

Getting revenge: “The Bible says an eye for an eye…” (It is also says 70 times 7! Matthew 18:22)

Getting drunk: “Jesus turned water into wine…” (He also said be not drunk with wine. Ephesians 5:18)

I took my grandson to a children’s museum the other day. There was a giant tube filled with blue beads. There was supposed to be a tiny yellow bead in the millions of blue ones. It was compared to a 1 in 30 million chance of winning the lottery. It said that not many people would find it.

I didn’t.

But I got a big revelation while I intently searched for it.

Jesus is like the wide expanse of blue beads. You see it; you know where to find it…

But you just keep looking for that little yellow bead, that other way to salvation that no one else is able to find while the Lord is saying, Here! I’ve laid it all out for you. Stop searching!  

My friend Genny said she didn’t think there was a yellow bead in there at all. She thought it was there just to make people waste time looking.

She might be onto something. Because that’s EXACTLY what the devil does when he has you looking for other ways to salvation except through Jesus.

Wastes your time.

So don’t waste time trying to mold God’s Word to fit your life. Mold YOUR life to fit His Word.

(And maybe don’t mess with the jello mols either. Who really likes them?)