#momfailure files

Sandra’s head hung in shame as she headed up the walkway to the school. How many times had her daughter asked her to sign that permission slip? She had plenty of time; the field trip wasn’t for another two weeks. There was always something more pressing that required her attention. Time had flown by; why hadn’t she taken five seconds to sign that paper?

The hurt in her daughter’s tear-filled eyes was more than she could bear. I’m an awful mother, she thought, as the girl sought comfort from the woman who was responsible for her pain.

When the school secretary handed her the check-out slip, Sandra expected to be met with an expression of condemnation. The first graders had been talking about this trip for weeks and she knew her daughter must have been devastated to watch the bus leave without her.

She was surprised when she was met with a look of compassion instead.

“Mama,” she began. Sally Rutherford called everybody Mama. That was, after all, their name to those who mattered most in their lives. “Mama, you trying to do too much. You a good mama and you just need to focus on Jesus and that baby girl, and you’ll be all right.”

Sandra had never really noticed the plump, older woman before but now she saw an angel in front of her very eyes. One who’d delivered a message she’d carry in her heart for the rest of her life.

“Yes, ma’am,” she said, as she took her daughter’s hand. “No school or work for either of us today. We are going on our own field trip.”

Have you ever failed as a mother? Has guilt taken hold as your child suffered for your mistakes?

Forgive yourself, focus on Jesus, and make new memories of love.

To the Lord our God belong mercies and forgivenesses. Daniel 9:9


It’s Sunday night! Time to gear up for a new week. As always, the best way to do that is to PUT ON THE ARMOR OF GOD (Ephesians 6:10-18) but we also will focus on ONE area to strengthen our walk with the Lord. Just one focus to help us grow a faith that cannot fade with the demands of life and the pressures of this world. This week we will focus on BEING STILL!

What a perfect week for this!

But, first an apology….because I’ve not been too understanding when young moms say they have no time for themselves…or prayer. You MAKE time, I’d counter.

Then I kept my 15-month old grandson for a week.

I took for granted things like, say, using the bathroom when you needed to. 😊 It’s HARD to make time for yourself when you have young kids. Apparently, I had a great nanny and diminishing faculties because, despite having four stairstep children, I’d forgotten this.

Since my themes were planned a year in advance, it is pure serendipity that BEING STILL popped up right after my rather challenging week. But I’m still going with it. (If you’ve got a toddler, maybe save this for FUTURE reference?!)

We don’t stop enough. We go and go and go. In fact, when the Lord asks Satan what he’s been doing, his answer was “From going to and fro on the earth…” (Job 2:2)

It reminds me of myself at times. Because I like to plan ahead, I’m never actually finished. I may meet deadlines on time but I still never stop because it’s on to the next thing. I’m going to and fro.

But Jesus rested.

He rested in the boat in the midst of a storm. He rested on a mountain. He even took a moment and drew in the sand while others were crying for a woman to be stoned to death for adultery.

Jesus knew how important it was sometimes to just sit still.

And yet, here we are…here I am…emulating Satan with our fast-paced, hectic lives instead of following Jesus’ example and just being still.

Carve out at least 15 minutes EACH DAY this week to just BE STILL. Listen to some quiet music, pray, read, meditate….just enjoy BEING instead of doing.