I’ve seen no less than four personal feuds and one over-the-line, disguised-as-a-joke jab at an ex-family member on Facebook so far today. And because of the hurricane-that-ended-up-being-a-tropical-storm-instead that blew through here last night, my day started later than usual.
When did Facebook become the de facto justice system in America?
People want vengeance; they want sympathy; and they want everyone to end up on their side. It’s like Red Rover for adults.
People post on Facebook for many reasons. But the underlying theme is quite similar: we crave emotional support and acceptance from our peers.
That isn’t necessarily a bad thing and Facebook can be an amazing tool to connect with others. But some things aren’t meant to be shared with the world:
Marital (or relationship) issues top that list. No matter what you do from that point forward, whether it is reconciliation or divorce, you’ve aired your dirty laundry for the world to comment on, make assumptions, and offer unsolicited advice. Gone are the days of confiding in your best friend. Now we post secrets openly, often embellishing the truth to win the “jury” of our peers.
Friendship spats are another. He said/she said. She said/she said. We all know the truth lies somewhere in between both stories so why make us choose? You often end up losing the friend you’re posting about and those who don’t want to get caught in the crosshairs.
Family issues make everyone uncomfortable. Whether it’s your own family, or someone else’s, reading about family discord is always unpleasant. Bring it to the Thanksgiving dinner table (Isn’t that where the most epic family feuds happen?!) and leave everyone else out of it.
I really don’t mind the arguments over politics and shoemakers and who has the best D-1 offense. They are definitely hot topic button pushers but that’s okay. We are all different and we all have different opinions.
But airing your relationship issues. That’s just out of line.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29